So about me…..this is the part where I am supposed to tell you about me. Um..Well ok.
I am Jess. The Um Mum.
I have called myself and this site the Um Mum for 2 reasons.
Firstly I say um about a billion times a day and I am acutely aware of it since it was pointed out at a speech I did a few years ago for a performance launch. I am convinced since then I have gotten considerably worse.
The second is I hear…um…mum from my 6 year old and toddler about a trillion times a day that now it’s just really my new adopted name in our house. Every single thing begins with…um…mum.
Anyway, like I said I am Jess and I am 33 years old with3 Children, Byron 7, Evelyn 2 and baby Elizabeth. I have a beautiful, extraordinary husband whom I worship. And not in that male dominated, I am not feminist and need a male to care for me way. He is simply just the best human and my best friend. So, family life is wonderful in the grand scheme of things.
My back ground is prominently theatre and arts but I have had a shift in, I guess what you could call passion and priorities since our son was diagnosed with ASD just after his 3rd birthday. Since then I took an early childhood care course simply out of interest and wanting to learn as much as I could about children and more so if there was anything more I could do to help my son.
So what did I do? I left my job and pretty much stepped away from my small business (Theatre Company) to invest more time in developing and working with my son.
We had a full on schedule of therapies and groups to attend to every week. I think it actually came to 5 days a week for almost 2 years. Nothing else really could fit around it. Well truthfully I think I didn’t let too much more fit around it. In that time we saw a huge progression in him and I thank my lucky stars we managed to get the best team around us to give him the best chance. Now he attends main stream school and is doing fairly well considering. Of course there are ups and downs but everyone has them.
Somewhere in that 2 years my then partner (now husband) and I managed to get hitched and have a beautiful baby girl and make a great little life for us all. I am a stay at home mum (Which I know the Jess 10 years ago would have rolled her eyes at) and I still take B to his needed therapies and try to be in involved in his school as much as I can. I love it.
I love, love, love being a mum. Sure I miss sleep, bathroom and food breaks and well….time… but it just is an evolution in me that naturally manifested into what truly is me. It surprised me for sure but what woman isn’t really shocked at the things she becomes once that baby is placed on your chest. A lot can change.
My husband is a disabilities employment coach and care worker so, not only is he a huge advocate for people with disabilities, he is absolutely amazing at his job and definitely a source of inspiration when starting this site/blog. That and also a pact I had with a girlfriend that I would actually start this and she would get her show reel done. Pretty sure she completed her show reel a long long time ago now…eeepppp!
The main aim of it is really to share as much info and personal experience I can about my journey with my son and also just being a parent. I find a lot of women I talk to with children and especially ASD children have a constant thirst for finding out more and more information on how other people manage, cope and live and it is an abundant source of strength within that community.I remember going to an Autism workshop and seeing so many parents in tears because they didn’t know what to do next or where to look.
On this site I have compiled and will contiune to collect as much information, contacts and sites as possible so that parents can find everything they need without the stress. I know how that felt! And I hate the thought of people out there feeling helpless or alone in this.
So my other aim is to celebrate those people and introduce you, my readers into their worlds.
I love love love following other people’s journeys, hearing their stories and just having a genuine interest in people and their lifestyles.
I am not a writer, I am not a proffesional blogger sportting my OFTD, I am not a scholar on all things ASD OR perfect spelling B and grammer freak so bear with me as I get the hang of this.
Anyway it’s pretty simple and I would love to hear from you so please hit me line if you want to share, talk or add anything at all you may think would be useful to other peeps out there!
Ciao for now
Post Script: I warn you now I swear and can swear a lot when I am on a rant…I make no apologies for that 🙂